Where's the Line?

Today I just wanna touch on an issue that may or may not be sensitive, depending on the way you look at it. And I want you to share with me as well. What would you call rape and how would you define sex? How different are they from each other?

Let’s create a scenario for the guys. Say you meet up with your girlfriend whom you haven’t seen in a while. You are really looking forward to meeting her. So meet after work, do dinner and go to your place afterwards. It isn’t too late and she’ll leave in a couple of hours. At your place you guys get cozy with some kisses and caresses and cuddles… just delighting in being together again.

You’re getting your groove on and want more. Then your girlfriend stops you; she enjoys the cuddling but she doesn’t want to go further (she doesn’t spell it out, though). Now she’s turned off. You try to get her in the mood but it isn’t working. She doesn’t want this.

You try again, without words and her actions respond no to you. Then you try persuasion and she’s still not giving in. In fact she told you before that she wasn’t ready to go all the way. Just that you thought you could get her to change her mind. Apparently you were wrong, she is stubborn.

 But this is your girlfriend. Why should you have to beg for something that should come freely, you could even call it your right. For you, sex should be a part of the package of any relationship but you know your girlfriend does not agree with you. She’s frustrating you and you are getting angry but she doesn’t give a damn.

Then you decide you are gonna get what you want, whether she likes it or yes. She’ll probably give up along the line and even enjoy it. So you grab hold of her jeans and the struggle begins. You straddle her and keep pulling. She tries really hard to hold on but you’re stronger. It takes time but in the end you win; her jeans are off. And OMG, her panty is sexy! As if she expected this.

She threatens to scream but you just laugh it off. And inside, even to her it sounds absurd because you are her boyfriend. Panty follows soon after but the struggle continues. She doesn’t want to give up. She tries to sit up and you push her back. Both of you are determined to have your way.

You try to reason with her but she doesn’t want to listen. You want to explain that you don’t like what is happening, if only she would trust you. But she doesn’t want to. You tell her that this is going to strengthen your bond and she pleads with you instead to stop. But now you’ve seen things and you are so turned on by what you are still seeing; there’s no way you are letting go. Besides you are sure she’ll like it soon enough.

So you tell her how you’re feeling and show she’s making you feel bad by fighting you. You position yourself in a way that she feels your hardness and she wavers a bit. But common sense comes back and she tells you: ‘this is wrong. I don’t want to do this.’ You promise to be gentle but she’s scared.

It looks like she’s about to comply. But then she shakes her head vigorously and says no. she tries to get you off but you don’t budge. You hold her hands down with one hand and lie on her. With one hand, you undo your belt and pull your thing out. You part her legs with one of yours and she’s still saying no, asking you to let go. She’s not staying still, making it a bit difficult for you.

‘Hey!’ you shout at her. And when you grabbed her attention for a second you plunge in... Into her. Next thing you hear is her scream…

It’s late and I’m kinda sleepy. Why don’t we continue this next week?